I wanted to create a 5-day trip around the bay area that includes the hottest tourist spots and a good mixture of the different cultures and cuisines that are offered here.  There are definitely some notable attractions and restaurants left off here.  But, I think there's a nice blend of activities for both you and Aileen to enjoy.  And, I've tried to restrict myself to the San Francisco area without venturing too far (except for Napa/Sonoma). 

But, please let me know if there is anything specific that you wanted to do while you're here.  And, we'll have to figure out when I'm around so we can meet up too.